The ‘When This, Then That’ cycle is a cruel one. When I achieve X, then I'll feel Y. It's always tempting, but only momentarily fulfilling. So how do we break it? We must learn to want what you already have.

“Time is a created thing. To say 'I don't have time' is like saying, 'I don't want to.” - Lao Tzu. Western culture often demands us to live a linear life of progress. But reminding ourselves of the cyclical nature of life can slow things down, and take control of the pace of our own life.

Their bends and undulations aren't flaws, but the defining characteristic of what they are. When we accept the kinks, meanders and oxbow lakes of our own lives, we're able to treat ourselves more kindly. And in doing so, fall in love with a process over an outcome.