Happiness might just be hiding behind that choice. The relationship between choice and control steers our life's direction. And much of this balance lies in what we're willing to let go of, and let exist outside of our control.

A world of texting and instant messaging means we can avoid the unpredictability and messiness of phone calls. We can outsource the expression of emotions to GIFs and emojis. We can reduce uncertainty. But life is unpredictable, messy and uncertain. And that's a reality we can't ignore.

Focusing on what you can, and cannot control, is the first step in setting effective boundaries. This is hard, because it always requires us to let go. To let go of the idea that we can influence and change other people, events, or circumstances, when the reality is that in most cases in life, this simply isn’t true. All we can truly control, is ourselves, and the choices that we make.